We tend to put caveats on our happiness throughout our lives. If only I lost this weight, I’d be happy. If only I had someone to love me for me, I’d be happy. If only I earned enough not to worry about money, I’d be happy.
But you can see how we defer our happiness to some point in the future, which never seems to arrive.
What if we could change our approach completely and be happy right now? Just imagine how magical it would be when on top of that you then lose the weight, find a partner or earn more money.
But then you think: “I know myself, I do not have a lot of willpower, otherwise I would have lost the weight and be happy by now!” This is where working with a coach provides its true value. Just look how much athletes can achieve by having a coach.
Happiness can be hard to maintain if we don’t really know what we want. Instead of focussing on the values we hold dear, we rely on external and mostly uncontrollable events to bring us glimpses of happiness. It’s only by spending time figuring out what we intuitively want out of life that we can steer our lives in a more fulfilling and meaningful direction. Happiness then becomes the by-product of your life, instead of a single-minded pursuit.
The easiest way to get into a state of happiness is to remember a time when you truly experienced happiness. In your imagination, put yourself back in that situation and experience it as if it was happening now. Notice what you see and hear around you. Now notice your feelings and how your body responds. Come back to now, bringing those feelings with you. Enjoy wearing your smile!
Bad habits, negative mind chatter, limiting beliefs, trauma or phobias can all contribute to keeping us stuck in a place of internal suffering. But life doesn’t have to be this way. Even if you think things can never change for YOU, know that this is not true. Take the first step and book your free half hour consultation.
When you smile the brain releases feel-good neurotransmitters, including dopamine, endorphins and serotonin. These brain chemicals aid in calming your nervous system by lowering heart rate and blood pressure. Research shows that smiling when you’re feeling blue can boost your mood, even if you’re faking a smile.
A state is a way of being in any moment. It comes from our physiology, thinking and emotions. States vary in intensity, length and familiarity. The calmer the state, the easier it is to think rationally. The more intense the state, the more thinking is disrupted and the more emotional energy you have.
Emotional freedom does not mean never feeling negative states, but being able to be aware of them and choose a response.
Loss has a lasting affect on us. We choose to what degree it makes or breaks us.