Research studies show at least 31 benefits associated with gratitude. These range from health benefits, social and career benefits to emotional and personality benefits. So why not develop your gratitude muscle?
This is a good time of the year to reflect back over the year you’ve had before you get all consumed by the festive season. Take a moment to appreciate all the good things that happened for you, no matter how small. Without doing this, you will never quite appreciate how blessed you truly are.
We all like to think we have a great sense of humour, but the truth is when we’re stressed, anxious, grieving or depressed we struggle to find things funny. Life just feels too serious for laughter at times. So what can you do to bring back some of those lighthearted feelings?
We tend to put caveats on our happiness throughout our lives. If only I lost this weight, I’d be happy. If only I had someone to love me for me, I’d be happy. If only I earned enough not to worry about money, I’d be happy.
But you can see how we defer our happiness to some point in the future, which never seems to arrive.
What if we could change our approach completely and be happy right now? Just imagine how magical it would be when on top of that you then lose the weight, find a partner or earn more money.
But then you think: “I know myself, I do not have a lot of willpower, otherwise I would have lost the weight and be happy by now!” This is where working with a coach provides its true value. Just look how much athletes can achieve by having a coach.
Happiness can be hard to maintain if we don’t really know what we want. Instead of focussing on the values we hold dear, we rely on external and mostly uncontrollable events to bring us glimpses of happiness. It’s only by spending time figuring out what we intuitively want out of life that we can steer our lives in a more fulfilling and meaningful direction. Happiness then becomes the by-product of your life, instead of a single-minded pursuit.
The easiest way to get into a state of happiness is to remember a time when you truly experienced happiness. In your imagination, put yourself back in that situation and experience it as if it was happening now. Notice what you see and hear around you. Now notice your feelings and how your body responds. Come back to now, bringing those feelings with you. Enjoy wearing your smile!
Bad habits, negative mind chatter, limiting beliefs, trauma or phobias can all contribute to keeping us stuck in a place of internal suffering. But life doesn’t have to be this way. Even if you think things can never change for YOU, know that this is not true. Take the first step and book your free half hour consultation.